So has the stormy weather got you down? Remember it’s okay to feel crappy every now and again. I’m not minding it too much since it fits in nicely with my soup lunch 😉 And since I feel like I may be coming down with something (sore throat GTFO) this weather is perfect for doing pretty much nothing. Unfortunately, that’s not an option for me since I had to go to uni and now I’m at work. I popped some pills and hopefully that’ll power me through the next 5 hrs! (Ps. Lucky I got all those cheap vitamins yesterday haha). Upon waking up I felt a bit groggy and out of it, but put it down to the fact that I probably just needed more sleep. Even during my body pump and cx class my head felt strange. It finally hit me during my math tutorial and I’ve been thinking positive (healthy thoughts, healthy actions yep!) so that I can fight this thing head on before it gets worse.
Apart from that things are swell. How is things in your neck of the woods? Fantastic I hope 🙂
Moving on- last night as I was trying to sleep my brain went thought-crazy and would not switch off. Being a silver lining gal, I found something good did come of my inability to sleep- another topic for a blog post. It’s about changing the language we use and using proactive language opposed to negative or prohibitive language. This is actually something teacher’s often use in school with classroom rules and such. So to begin, what you do is think of something you tell yourself no too, or something along those lines. Say for instance you say ‘Do not binge’. Instead, try saying ‘Do enjoy food in a healthy manner’. See what I did there? I flipped it. It’s sort of like that thing where you tell yourself not to think of something and you end up doing the opposite and obsess about it. How about we stop setting ourself up for failure and change the language we use. You know I’m all for positive language- say no to the F Word! and using our thoughts WITH our actions.
This way it doesn’t feel like we are restricting, depriving or prohibiting ourselves from anything. And we aren’t speaking negatively or harshly. Merely, we are telling ourselves what we can do and using positive and proactive language.
Here’s a few typical examples you may hear yourself saying, with alternative ‘DO’ language (the language we should be using):
- I will not binge —-> I will respect my body by feeding it when it’s hungry and stopping when it’s full.
- I can’t eat dessert —-> I can enjoy my dinner and if I need to I can share a dessert (or have my own thank you!).
- I can’t miss the gym —-> I can try my hardest to go to the gym but will understand when life gets in the way.
- Don’t eat that _____ staring at me —–> Do allow myself one/some _____ if I truly feel like it and then busy myself elsewhere.
- Don’t go back for seconds —–> Do eat your first serve slowly so to enjoy it fully. If my body still feels hungry I’ll make sure I get more.
- Don’t eat anything ‘naughty’ this week —–> I will try my hardest to eat healthy and balanced throughout the week. (Key word: BALANCED!!)
- Don’t weigh myself —–> The weight on the scales is irrelevant to how I look and feel about myself.
Okay, so there’s a few examples. You’ll see you don’t have to use the do and don’t language rigidly but it’s the notion of those words- one echos positivity, allowance and balance. The other makes you feel like you’re being punished, brings on shame, guilt and has many negative associations (slap on the wrist so to speak). When we speak positively, we do positive things and we stay positive. Positive = happy. So that’s fine in my books!
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Do you use more ‘DO’ or ‘DON’T’ language? Have you got some more common examples to add to my list?
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