Happy Thursday! Can you really blame me for loving Thursdays? After all I get to teach two Body Step classes, so all those endorphins would make anyone happy. Plus my only bit of tv is on tonight- Beauty & the Geek! But apart from teaching my classes, eating the usual, watching some trashy tv and trying to/avoiding any study I also met up with an old friend- my therapist. It’d been over a month since I saw him and it was really good to catch up with him and tell him all the wonderful things happening in my life! He is so impressed with how well I’m doing and can see huge improvements. But it’s not all me- I just want to say that without this blog and you guys I would not be where I am today. You have given me an outlet to talk, express, share and (hopefully) help. In return my life has never been better, so thank you!
Anyways, old mate (is that stereotypical Australian enough for you? ha) said something to me today that just BAM, I knew I had to hold onto and share with you guys. Don’t let one turn into many. Seriously! Where does he come up with this stuff? He has given me amazing mantras and quotes, that to this day I still vividly remember.
Anyways, this little phrase here is golden. It can be used in any way you want. Basically, it reinforces the fact that black and white thinking isn’t realistic. Just because he said it once, it happened once, you did it once- does not mean it’s going to happen over and over. Lets make it a bit more concrete by putting it into a few different scenarios.
You miss the gym once? Don’t beat yourself up, because that one time doesn’t mean you’ll continue to miss the gym every single time!
Some annoying little someone makes a comment about what you’re eating, because he knows it annoys you. It has more to do with the fact that it bugs you then it has to do with your actual food…(ahh too specific? Haha!) Doesn’t mean everyone judges what you eat- no one does! They’ve got better things to do.
So you overate. Who doesn’t? I mean it’s impossible to eat the exact same amount of food every single day. We go through patterns of under eating, over eating and eating just the right amount all the time. It doesn’t mean you’re greedy, a gluten or an oompa loompa- it means you’re human (and a normal eater at that!).
You got a shitty mark? Who hasn’t been there, we’ve all had crappy lecturers (haha love that I’ve put the blame for your crappy mark on the lecturer opposed to your actual work?). But in all seriousness, this one ‘let down’ mark is only one of many other marks- and those marks aren’t necessarily going to echo that mark.
I guess the common element in each of these scenarios is the assumption that one less-than-ideal happening/occurrence/event means there are more to come. When in retrospect it could be the opposite. Instead of letting it be the start of a downwards spiral, use it to better your future circumstances- not path the way for more.
And because I can’t help myself with all these fantastic picture quotes. And who knows perhaps these will speak stronger and louder than my words anyways- here’s a montage.
Okay not much of a montage but you got three fantastic picture quotes, and a whole heap of writing from me! So don’t just nod your head in agreement, remarking things like ‘oh wow she’s so right’, ‘what a fantastic writer’ or ‘I’ll follow her blog now’ (ha); but do something about it! Stop turning one into many!
Have you got an example to share where you’ve assumed one incident will continue to happen? What were you ACTUALLY thinking as you read this post? (Yes, I am intrigued!)