What a beautiful sunny Thursday! I can’t wait to go soak up some sun and finish my Fifty Shades of Grey (100 pages to go and counting). My day started with a sweet breakfast of oats, trim milk, pecans, banana slices, chia seeds and honey. I was actually rather reluctant while making it (no frozen vegies left for the scramble) but once I started digging in I remembered why I have been eating this daily for 2 or so years haha. I’m also very excited because I finished the pb jar when having my post-gym snack (Woohoo). Now someone must go and retrieve every last bit of pb out of that jar- so that it can be recycled of course 😉 What is funny is that there isn’t usually much leftover (along the sides, bottoms, in the nooks and crannies etc) anyways- I don’t do pb half-ass people! Don’t fear, I prepared for this and bought back up when we last grocery shopped.
Did I get it all?
I have vacuumed, walked the dogs and paid bills (yay for crossing things of my to-do list). Before this, I also taught a killer Body Step class- athletic style once again. And I am filling another one tonight- I am going to keep the current mix going but I might incorporate the party step in and take out the final peak instead.
As group fitness instructors our aim is to please and deliver. It’s no longer about our workouts but the workouts of the participants. After today’s class I learnt (well, re-learnt) that you really can’t please everybody. I always ask at the end of every class for feedback both good and bad. Very rarely do I get anything constructive to work on (does no one else love lingering around the gym like me? haha), so I seek it out. I go around and ask the members as I see them throughout the gym. After introducing the athletic track last week I thought there was a unanimous “yes we want to keep doing this week-to-week” but this morning one older lady informed me (after I asked her mind you) that “no offence I found it to be a boring track and I much prefer the party and speed tracks” (initial thought: you’re not offending me but Les Mills- I don’t make the tracks I just teach them haha). I wouldn’t say I was offended as such but I was definitely bummed a bit. Obviously I want to make the class as enjoyable as possible for everyone. I told her majority of the class did enjoy the athletic track and requested we keep it, but that I’d change the format and introduce the party track back in whilst also keeping the athletic. Compromise 😉
This reinforced for me an important message: that although you will try to, you really cannot please everybody. Everybody has their own preferences, styles, tastes- hell I use to despise the step instructors when they chose the athletic option (when I was a participant) but love it now I am an instructor.
Not only is this a great message for group fitness instructors but for everyone- this is a life message (I feel like I’m standing on a box with a megaphone preaching) haha. But seriously, in life we are going to disappoint people and impress others. But the person we really have to please is ourselves. Although in a group fitness situation (as an instructor) it’s about other peoples’ workouts, in life it’s about you. This is your life. Don’t waste it trying to be perfect in someone else’s eyes. Anyways, you can never guarantee that what you do will make others happy- but you know what makes you happy and you can experience that sensation firsthand. It’s not about being selfish, it’s about self-love, self-care and self-happiness (and maybe a little bit about being selfish every now and again). Before you can make others happy you have to make yourself happy first.
So what makes you happy? Well here’s a list of things that are getting me happy and smiling lately:
- The boyfriend. Always there to make me smile and cheer me up. Do not know and don’t want to think about what I’d do without him.
- Finding a healthier and tastier version of delicious treats- Triple Choc Healthified brownies anyone?
- My blog and the readers (you!). I love being able to empty myself into this blog, express my feelings, and (hopefully) help others. I know I personally LOVE reading blogs (blog-a-holics anonymous?) and find it so warming when you find someone or something you can relate to; someone who just gets it ya know? I can’t tell you how many times I’ve been in a slump and have instantly felt better after typing it all up. The blog is sometimes like a personal journal and it gives me rationality (when I may or may not be thinking irrationally- drama queen alert). Better yet, I and my bf feel it has made me a more positive person. Which is completely true! I know although we all go through struggles no one wants to constantly read a whingey, sad blog. So I put on my happy face when I come here. Oh and that saying ‘fake it, till you make it’- it’s true 😉
Are you someone who constantly tries to please others? More importantly, what makes you happy?